What is Post-Traumatic-Divorce-Disorder?
Getting over a breakup or a divorce is not easy. Your entire life changes.
The truth is there are days during everyone’s separation that are hard. But, then there are those who, no matter how hard they’ve tried, are unable to move forward with their lives - no matter the circumstances.
As I began to look around, I realized many people, most divorcees, hadn’t healed from their separations and were stuck.
Post-Traumatic-Divorce-Disorder™ is a term I coined to describe those stuck in the story of their divorce, their past, their fears, and their shame.
I experienced this first hand as the shame of divorce followed me into my first and second marriages. It was only after I was on my knees in my attorney’s office separating from my children’s father that I realized I had to change how I was approaching this entire experience.
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Commonly Experienced as:
- an unwillingness or an inability to let go of the past
- an inability to focus on the future without negative feelings
- daily or weekly focus on exacting revenge
- gossiping, whining and complaining about an ex
- using children to punish an ex/be at the receiving end of punishment
- using money as a way to punish an ex/be at the receiving end of staying stuck
- a pattern of confusion and an unwillingness to take personal responsibility for one’s part in the breakup of the marriage/ over responsibility and self-blame for the breakup of the marriage
- an unwillingness or inability to take care of one’s appearance and health, career momentum and financial security
- a fear of dating, intimacy or marrying again
- an unwillingness or inability to stop fighting with an Ex whether in your mind or in reality.