You must let go of unhealthy people to move on.
Are you unable to stop others from treating you poorly? If you’ve suffered from not speaking up, then your breakup is going to be a huge growth spurt. This is when you get to try on a new you and go for speaking up, go for saying “no” and creating some integrity. It won’t be easy, and your ex might not like it. But this is the one time when you’re the decision maker. Doing so will make you stronger and more in control.
You have to become involved and forthright with the decisions to let go and move on after a breakup.
If you’re conditioned to getting your own way, going through a divorce is going to be a rude awakening. Courts, attorneys, and the law don’t always see things the way you do. They also don’t care about you getting your way. It’s tough to hear “no.” It’s not fun to have to let go and follow new rules for your children and your future. It’s really tough. But you’ll survive and you have to let go of that control in order to move on. Better yet, instead of sticking to “ it’s my way or the highway,” try to grow. Get out of your comfort zone and begin negotiating. Stand in the other person’s shoes, your kids’ shoes, and imagine what’s best for the family’s future.